Ways of Coping during Divorce & Separation

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Divorce and Separation is difficult and hard for both parties – even the party that may have ultimately decided to end the relationship. The process can be demanding emotionally, mentally and physically.

At Barnes Clark Family Law, we are a team of solicitors specialising only in dealing with family law issues following the breakdown of your relationship. We can provide you with expert legal support and guidance, to take some pressure and worry off you and assist you in resolving matters as amicably and as quickly, as we can.

It is important that you take time to focus on your mental health and below are some tips on how to cope during divorce and separation.

  • Take your time. Make sure that any steps taken to formalise the end of your relationship are done at the pace right for you (where possible). Do not rush into making any big decisions, as you may later regret them.
  • Lean on your friends and family. Remember you do not have to go through anything alone. A support network of family and friends can really ease any concern and keep you focussed on your end goals.
  • Seek professional support, if needed. It is important for your mental health to seek help if you are struggling.
  • Remain Positive. You will get through this and you will be able to move on, when you are ready.
  • Take time for yourself. Try and make sure that you take some time out to relax and do something that you enjoy. It is important to make sure that you are still taking care of yourself.
  • Remember it is okay to go through a range of emotions. You do not have to feel one particular thing. This will be an emotionally difficult time for you and whatever you are feeling that is okay, whether it be sadness, anger, confusion, relief or even happiness.
  • Try and avoid conflict. It is important that any issues are resolved amicably for all parties. In some circumstances, this may not be a possibility. If conflict arises regarding the divorce, finances or children it is advisable that you seek legal advice for guidance and assistance. Or if you already have, ask your solicitor to correspond with the other party instead, so that you slightly removed from the conflict and to avoid the possibility of it getting worse.
  • If you have children, keep conflict away from them and avoid them becoming messengers. Children should not be involved in any conflict / conversations about your separation. This will be a difficult and strange time for them as well and it is important that they feel they can spend time with both of you, without worry about upsetting the other or worrying about what one parent is now going to say about the other. Read more about supporting children through a divorce.

For further information, or to arrange an appointment please contact us on 01274 861096 (Liversedge) or 01423 637272 (Harrogate) or email enquiries@barnesclarkfamily.law. Please note that we offer a free half an hour consultation.